Advice about Boy Problems
Question: My friend liked this guy who didn’t like her. He liked me and I liked him. He told her that he didn’t like her and that he liked me. Now she hates me because I’m hanging out with him. She’s calling me ugly and shes saying that she doesn’t know why anyone would like me and she’s being really mean and I just need some help.
Answer from the Teens at Girls With Dreams:
Besides everything going on with a boy between you and your friend, she is saying mean things because she is upset with you and she doesn’t mean what she is saying, because if she didn’t think those things before then why would she think them now?
You have two questions to ask yourself. Is this boy going to be worth it in the end? And… Is your friend a true friend if she is acting like this?
I can’t tell you what to do, only you know the full situation and the personalities of these two people, but I would say before you make any more decision you need to sit down by yourself and really think about the situation. Think about the outcomes that will happen if you make a decision. Talk to your mom or another close friend that you can trust who you know wont say anything. I’m not saying to go talk smack on her, but sometimes you need to vent and maybe that will help.
As girls we need to stand by each other and be strong, but maybe your friend is weighing you down, or maybe this boy is ruining your friendship…maybe you need to forget about the whole situation and pretend like it never happened.
Think about how you would feel if you were in your friends situation, how would you want someone to handle it when talking to you.
You and your friend probably need to sit and talk. Key word is talk! Let her know that you care about her, and that you’re sorry for upsetting her, but you really like this boy. Ask her what she wants from you… In a perfect world what would she want you to do.
Honestly, a lot of friends are going to come and go, and your best friends will stick with you no matter what. Just be sure to not stir up any more drama and try to get the whole thing to just end. Don’t talk bad about your friend, and show you’re the bigger person. Just make sure to end in peace with each other whether you decide to stay friends or not.
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